Author: Melissa Payne

I have been working with my Jungian analyst for over a year now, and I think after almost every session my mind is blown and my heart expanded (the gift of therapy - yes, this is a shameless plug for my profession). I have been wanting to work with a Jungian analyst for years now, … Continue reading Tension of Opposites & The Transcendent Third

I have always, since a very young age, been drawn and attracted to the souls of people. The inner world that makes up who they are and thus are reflected in how they walk, dress, talk and observe the world. Sure, that has probably shaped the fact that I became a therapist. But it translates … Continue reading A Reflection on My Queerness

It is likely that the word "Erotic" in the title of this post intrigued you. I at least hope it did. I know it would for me if I saw it. We all have connotations and associations with the word erotic, likely many overly-sexualized associations. This word, this beautiful experience that awakens us, the erotic, … Continue reading Year of the Erotic

"The attempt to create a life devoid of disappointment is the attempt to avoid the vulnerabilities that make the conversations of life real, moving, and life-like; it is the attempt to avoid our own necessary and merciful heartbreak. To be disappointed is to reassess our self and our inner world, and to be called to … Continue reading Disappointment & Dancing

When I was in high school, one of my volleyball teammates told me my legs looked like "cottage cheese". We were on the bus travelling to an out-of-town volleyball game and I was sitting on the bus seat with my legs in a certain way, pressed against that leathery material where my cellulite was more … Continue reading Magnificent Bodies

“The beauty of self-compassion is that instead of replacing negative feelings with positive ones, new positive emotions are generated by embracing the negative ones. The positive emotions of care and connectedness are felt alongside our painful feelings. When we have compassion for ourselves, sunshine and shadow are both experienced simultaneously. This is important—ensuring that the … Continue reading Compassionate Touch

You do not have to be good.You do not have to walk on your kneesfor a hundred miles through the desert repenting.You only have to let the soft animal of your bodylove what it loves...Mary Oliver I grew up in a subculture, a religious one, that taught me desire was something to be cautious about, … Continue reading To Desire

When I used to train for long distance races, I was always amazed at how much my body could actually endure. My cross country coach, along with the running articles I would read, would always remind me that the endurance game is primarily mental. I believe the ratio is something like 90% mental and 10% … Continue reading Cultivating Endurance

The final day of 2020. I took some time to sit with the events and moments of the last twelve months, and though this year will be an unforgettable one for many reasons, I noticed myself write that this was the "year of resilience". And I do think that’s true. It has been a couple … Continue reading The year of Resilience

When I think about despair I can't help but hear the words of Marilla Cuthbert's from Canada's beloved Anne of Green Gable's, "to despair is to turn your back on God". This has never sat right with me. Frankly, I identified more with Anne. Full of wholehearted emotion and declaration of being in "the depths … Continue reading Despair